Do you know what makes you happy?
What are you doing when time and space seem to disappear?
This is your passion!
Being happy is a choice.
There is no happy person with no problems or setbacks. There are only people with problems and setbacks choosing to be happy. You will always have problems in your life but these circumstances should not determine your happiness. This doesn’t mean you will never feel sad or mad sometimes but the best way to respond to a bad situation is with love and understanding. Try to deal with it and know that life will go on and it will be okay. Remember that God is in control and pray when you are having a hard time and God will get you through anything.
A recent tough situation for us was having our second son at 25 weeks. This was a very hard time but we chose to rely on God and pray over our son daily. We still had hard days but we chose to be happy and remembered to count our blessings. The Bible tells us to think on the positives in our lives and not the negatives.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8) NIV
How you respond to a problem is up to you and this will affect your happiness. The question is how can you take control of your happiness? As with anything else you have to practice. Practice focusing on your blessings and not what you deem as wrong in your life. Here are some actionable steps to begin your journey to a more happy life.
Steps To Begin Now!
1. Watch Your Thoughts.
Pay attention to your thoughts and how they affect your mood. For example, when you are thinking about a favorite memory, maybe a beach trip with your family, how do you feel? Recalling on happy memories will make you feel happy. However, if you think about a fight you had with your boyfriend and all the mean things that were said, how does that make you feel? Most likely you will feel annoyed or angry again. The thoughts that we think not only affect our emotions but the people around us and the way we react to situations.
If you go into a situation already in a bad and grumpy mood, you most likely will not handle the problem well. But if you get your mind thinking on positive thoughts and try to react with love and understanding, you will have a much better outcome. Begin practicing watching your thoughts. If you notice you have a lot of negative self talk in your head. Stop. Pray. And change what you are thinking about. Start thinking about what is good in your life and how far you have come since a year ago. This will take some practicing but it will help your happiness.
2. Pray When You Are Feeling Down.
Never hesitate to pray anytime you’re feeling bad. God cares about your worries and concerns. The Bible says, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7) NIV. He wants you to be happy and lean on Him during times of trouble. Prayer and building your relationship with God will greatly change your life for the better and make you a happier person. You also will find more opportunity to help others feel happy by sharing your testimony and sharing the love of God.
3. Regardless Of How You Respond, The Problem Is Still There.
If someone pulls out in front of you on the highway and you get mad, the person still pulled out in front of you and his merrily along their way. While you now sit there frustrated and mad. If someone pulls out in front of you and you don’t get mad but instead pray for them to drive more safely so that they don’t hurt themselves or others, the person still pulled out in front of you and is merrily along their way. While you now feel good that you prayed for them and you too can go merrily about your day. Your reaction to this stimulus did not change the reality of what happened. But the way you reacted did affect your happiness.
For the next week practice responding differently to stimuli that would normally upset you. Catch yourself in the midst of a situation and change how you respond to it. The best way is to begin your day with prayer. Saying ” Father, please help me to see when I am not responding well to a situation or person, help me to catch myself and respond in love.” This is a great way to begin each day and to start your day on the path to happiness.
4. Be In The Present Moment.
This sounds so easy but has proven to be quite difficult for me. It may be easier for others. When you are truly IN the moment you notice things you normally wouldn’t. Such as the birds chirping, your kids laughing, or a bee buzzing. We are usually so busy with life that we miss so many sweet moments that are happening all around us. Being busy tends to make a lot of us unhappy. We wish we had more time with our spouse, we wish we had more time with our kids, and so on. Being happy is a choice to be in the present moment and noticing the simple blessings in your life.
I hope trying these new steps will help you on your journey to being happy. And I pray that your relationship with God grows as you begin this journey. Remember that happiness is an inside job and not based on the circumstances around you. Choose happiness today!
Please comment below with tips you have for being happy or share ways God has helped improve your life.